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Very late birth announcement. [Dec. 23rd, 2007|09:52 pm]
A birth community for homebirthers etc.

Tyler Graham was born 12/11/2007 at 2:35 AM.

8 pounds 3 ounces, 20.9 inches

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A supportive community. [Sep. 24th, 2007|02:02 pm]
A birth community for homebirthers etc.

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In light of recent comments and posts in this community I feel that I must make a decision. No matter what I do I feel certain that I will make some enemies and I find that very upsetting. But I have to do what I have to do and there's not really a way to avoid it.

I have discussed this with the other Moderator and we have come to the same conclusion about what must be done.

I feel that the only solution is to honor the original intent for this community to be almost exclusively for homebirth moms and birth center moms.

Here are a few statements that will help clarify the purpose and belief of this community.

  • This community is primarily for mamas birthing in free-standing birth centers and at home (unassisted or with a midwife). Obviously it is our belief that these are the best places in which to have a baby (Assuming the mom is healthy and is having a healthy and normal pregnancy). Normal birth should take place outside of the hospital whenever possible. Period.

  • We are generally skeptical of hospitals, doctors, and the medical establishment at large no matter how wonderful any particular doctor or hospital seems to be.

  • This is not a place to find hospital-birth support. We acknowledge that there is a great need for natural-birth support for hospital moms, but we are not here to fill that need.

  • However, we want to support those moms who have no other choice but to give birth in a hospital because they *want* to be birthing at home and have had complications that completely barred them from that choice.

  • If you are passionate that normal birth should occur outside of the hospital whether or not you are able to do so yourself, you are welcome here.

I believe one of our members here has already created a natural-birth supportive community for moms who have chosen the hospital route and she is welcome to advertise that here if she so desires. I am glad that there will be some support to be found there that is very lacking here. And I personally apologize for that.

I am not kicking anyone out. Everyone can stay if they desire. If you feel uncomfortable here, I am very sorry. It is my fault.

I am new to moderating and these complications somewhat blindsided me. When I first started the community out of my own desire to have a homebirth/birth center due date community I didn't put a lot of thought into those who applied to join and I felt it was too mean to turn anyone away which defeated the purpose of my own original intent so that is completely my fault.

I do want this to be a place of support for those of us with the foundational belief that normal birth is best facilitated outside of a hospital environment and obviously our posts and comments would hopefully reflect that.

I also beg everyone to please respect each others minor differences and try to offer support as much as possible because we all want these things first and foremost: Healthy pregnancies, healthy natural births, and healthy babies! I believe that our chances at achieving that-- at home, in a birth center, or at a hospital-- are best when surrounded by a supportive group of like-minded women who can help each other out!

I wish everyone the best in their pregnancies and birth plans and hope your birth is an amazing natural experience for you!
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Newbie [Jun. 20th, 2007|07:47 pm]
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Fun with names [Jun. 19th, 2007|07:47 pm]
A birth community for homebirthers etc.

Everyone is having such great conversations on natural birth topics, etc, this is fun to read.

I thought I would throw out a small book review for the book that is my current obsession and I've been dragging it around with me since I knew I was pregnant. Alas, it has nothing to do with natural childbirth.

The book is The Baby Name Wizard by Laura Wattenburg. I've got three other books that tell me the origins and meanings of baby names but Baby Name Wizard is different.  The author discusses the popularity of each name. And she sorts names into categories or styles. For each name she suggests "brother and sister names", (basically if you like this name, you might also like these). The book is fun to read and fun to peruse. I've been amazed at how many families I know who have kids with names that fit perfectly in line with her predictions.

Many of you are probably familiar with Laura Wattenburg's program, NameVoyager or her blog. They are worth a look if you haven't checked them out before, as is the newest program using some of her data, Nymbler

Happy name hunting or obsessing to everyone out there who does that sort of thing.
I imagine I'm not the only one :)
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A birth community for homebirthers etc.

Hi!  I'm in a terribly bad mood but feel like lurking is rude, so I'll post a quick intro and can answer any questions later.

I'm 38 years old, married for 10 years next month, have three children (8.5G, 6B and 2B) and am pregnant for the 15th time with what I am hoping will be baby #4.  I've had three homebirths, two with CNM and one semi UC with only a doula present.  You can read #1 and 2's birth stories in my memories and I'm hoping to write up #3 and maybe upload some videos to youtube before #4 appears.  My official EDD is 1/10 (making me 11w on Thursday) but I'm expecting to go to or later than 43 weeks, so when I tell most people about the pregnancy, I'll say 2/1. 

What else... we're a generally crunchy mostly APish family.  We EC with cloth (and a little disposable) backing up, we exclusively breastfeed with delayed solids, we are currenly homeschooling, we mostly don't vaccinate, we bust our a**es to not use punitive discipline (though today was a flop, hoping tomorrow is better!).  I live in NYC, dh and the kids are vegetarian (though I'm currently not, boohoo!!!) and am one of those Jewish liberals philosophically ;)  I love to cook and eat and have a pretty good grasp of nutrition, but am fat anyway.  Yes, I'm a plus size mommy and I'm not ashamed or expecting it to cause any problems.  I have four bad discs in my lower back and struggle with various MI issues.  Hmmm... most of my lj is unlocked and you're welcome to look.  I also have journeytofour (my pregnancy journal), ecjourney (my ec journal), and a few mostly inactive accounts and communities.
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Flu shot? [Jun. 19th, 2007|03:37 pm]
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My OB suggested something that I hadn't thought of during my last appointment. Getting a flu shot.  

She went on about how the Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) recommend a flu shot for women who will be pregnant during flu season (October to mid-May) and that pregnant women are considered to be in a high risk group. I asked why and she said because pregnancy suppresses a woman's immune system, we are at a higher risk for getting the flu, with far more serious symtoms and risk getting pneumonia and suffering other complications from the flu.

The flu (inactivated virus) shot does contain thimerosal, a mercury-containing compound.. but of course the CDC says 'because pregnant women are at increased risk for influenza-related complications and because a substantial safety margin has been incorporated into the health guidance values for organic mercury exposure, the benefit of influenza vaccine with reduced or standard thimerosal content outweighs the potential risk, if any, for thimerosal.'

Personally, I think the CDC can take a flying leap.  I've never had a flu shot, so I don't know how my body will react, and I rarely get sick. 

So I thought I'd pose the question to y'all since it seems so far there are many a like minded friend here. I'm not sure yet if I'll get one, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to opt "out" as it were.
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Just another introduction... [Jun. 19th, 2007|02:03 pm]
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Hello there. I'm Lisa, 25 years old and currently living in Chandler, AZ (Phoenix metro area). I'm a little over 12 weeks along and am due December 27th with my second child.

I'll be seeing an OB while I'm in the Phoenix area, but we will be moving to an unknown location at an unknown time (probably within the next few months). After moving, I plan on using a midwife only and trying to get into a birthing center. I love the idea of a homebirth, but we'll be living in an apartment and highly doubt I'll feel comfortable giving birth there. But, if there are no good birthing centers or natural-birth friendly hospitals, then it'll definitely be a serious option.

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Happy pregnancies everyone.

~ Lisa
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Hospital Births [Jun. 19th, 2007|04:58 pm]
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I just wanted to say some things about hospital births that I hope most of you will agree with and understand.

Many of us have seen over and over again those (usually first-time) moms who say, "Oh yes, I'm planning a natural delivery in the hospital" bla bla bla. Usually you can tell right away that they are a lot of talk and don't even realize what they are saying. More often than not (probably about 95% of the time if not more?) they come back from their birth saying, "Well that was extraordinarily painful and there was no way I could do it without an epidural! So that's that." Some end up being induced or even having c-sections. That's just the way it usually is and most of you know this I think.

That is why I specifically made this community for homebirth, UC, and birth center moms. That, however, does NOT mean that you hospital birth moms aren't welcome!

I just want you to understand that there might be negative things said about hospitals and hospital births here and please don't take them personally. Many of us have had bad experiences with hospital births and have a general distrust of the medical establishment at large! I just want you to be prepared for that. This is primarily a homebirth/birth center/UC community so it's a given that many of us will be of the "hospitals and doctors are evil" persuasion. Again, please don't take it personally! That doesn't mean we can't be understanding of anyone's individual situation and reasons for needing/wanting a hospital birth!

So I want everyone to understand that first up.

Second, sometimes it's hard for moms who have had natural births to believe a mom who is planning a hospital birth and says "I'm planning a natural birth." It's just my first instinct when I hear that to think, "Yeah right!" and I smile and nod. Again, please don't be offended or take this personally!

This is merely my own reaction because I've had a hospital birth and I've had a birth center birth. For me (and many women) it is necessary to be outside of a hospital in order to give birth naturally. When I took my birth class the teacher said, "Going to a hospital for a natural birth is like going to McDonalds for authentic fine Thai Cuisine. It is humanly possible to get Thai food INSIDE a McDonalds, but it's generally a big hassle and generally not what happens at McDonalds!"

Even at my birth center birth, once I hit transition I was telling my husband, "I want to transfer to a hospital and get an epidural RIGHT NOW PLEEEEEASE!" I was begging him to take me to a hospital for an epidural at one point. Up to that moment I hadn't mentioned an epidural nor did I want one. And after transition passed and I gave birth to my beautiful baby I could not have dreamed of having her in any other place or any other way or imagined that just a little while earlier I had been begging for drugs! But in the intensity of that moment and in my own extremely vulnerable state (in laborworld), I was begging for pain meds. Imagine if I had been in the hospital! Would I have had a natural birth? Nope.

I'm always shocked and amazed when I hear of a woman having a natural birth in the hospital so to those of you who have done it, my hat is off to you! You are truly incredible!

So please forgive any doctor/hospital skepticism you might find here and realize that this community is geared towards women who are 100% certain that they ARE most DEFINITELY having 100% natural births. And it's easy to believe a women for whom pain meds won't even be an option (aka homebirth/birth center) and not so easy to believe those who will be surrounded by pain relief options.

This isn't meant to offend anyone! Merely to clear the air and to let you know, yeah- there might be some skepticism, but remember who we are and what this community is about. But we do want the best for each and every one of you and hope that you will definitely have the amazing natural birth of your dreams!

I got a comment on my recent intro post that made my day. It was a first-time mom who said, "Reading about other mommas learning from a bad hospital experience *really* helps to soothe the anxieties of a first-timer like myself. Thank you!"

That says it all to me. If anyone can learn from my experiences, I couldn't be more thrilled! That is what I'm about here.
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Introduction and Hello [Jun. 19th, 2007|11:41 am]
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Hi all,

My name is Laura, I'm 30 and expecting my 3rd child. My due date is at the end of November but I'm saying December especially because I have the same due date my mom had with me 31 years ago and my birthday is in December :)

I have a three and a half year old boy (Samuel) and a one and a half year old boy (Isaac). They are lots of fun!

The last 4 years have definitely been a journey toward natural birth and trusting birth for me. I always knew that natural birth was best and had it firmly in mind that interventions beget interventions. I knew I didn't want a c-section.

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yet another one [Jun. 19th, 2007|01:57 pm]
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I'm Blair, 28 from Austin, TX. I'm due Nov 22nd and my husband and I aren't finding out the sex until then.

I'm hoping for a natural hospital birth and have an OB that is very supportive of that. I also, unfortunately, have a fibroid the size of a softball sitting like a plug in the bottom of my uterus. I have an appointment with a specialist on Monday to measure for growth/shrinkage and discuss needs/options. There is a 50/50 possibility that I might need a c-section which I am really scared of. Hopefully I will get good news on Monday and can continue to persue natural birth.

Even if I have to have a c-section, I want to go to natural childbirth classes because I feel like I want the information and all the breastfeeding, healthy diet, good pregnancy stuff because it will still help me have a better pregnancy. I'm also interested in how to formulate a birth plan that, while including a c-section, is less traumatic for the baby (less sticking and poking and bright lights, etc.), if that is even possible.

I hope I am able to have a natural birth, but if not I hope you guys don't think I'm crazy for sticking around. I've done a lot of research and "large fibroid blocking birth canal" seems to be one of the few legitimate reasons for c-sections. Any thoughts or ideas are welcome!
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