||[Jun. 19th, 2007|04:58 pm]
A birth community for homebirthers etc.
I just wanted to say some things about hospital births that I hope most of you will agree with and understand.
Many of us have seen over and over again those (usually first-time) moms who say, "Oh yes, I'm planning a natural delivery in the hospital" bla bla bla. Usually you can tell right away that they are a lot of talk and don't even realize what they are saying. More often than not (probably about 95% of the time if not more?) they come back from their birth saying, "Well that was extraordinarily painful and there was no way I could do it without an epidural! So that's that." Some end up being induced or even having c-sections. That's just the way it usually is and most of you know this I think.
That is why I specifically made this community for homebirth, UC, and birth center moms. That, however, does NOT mean that you hospital birth moms aren't welcome!
I just want you to understand that there might be negative things said about hospitals and hospital births here and please don't take them personally. Many of us have had bad experiences with hospital births and have a general distrust of the medical establishment at large! I just want you to be prepared for that. This is primarily a homebirth/birth center/UC community so it's a given that many of us will be of the "hospitals and doctors are evil" persuasion. Again, please don't take it personally! That doesn't mean we can't be understanding of anyone's individual situation and reasons for needing/wanting a hospital birth!
So I want everyone to understand that first up.
Second, sometimes it's hard for moms who have had natural births to believe a mom who is planning a hospital birth and says "I'm planning a natural birth." It's just my first instinct when I hear that to think, "Yeah right!" and I smile and nod. Again, please don't be offended or take this personally!
This is merely my own reaction because I've had a hospital birth and I've had a birth center birth. For me (and many women) it is necessary to be outside of a hospital in order to give birth naturally. When I took my birth class the teacher said, "Going to a hospital for a natural birth is like going to McDonalds for authentic fine Thai Cuisine. It is humanly possible to get Thai food INSIDE a McDonalds, but it's generally a big hassle and generally not what happens at McDonalds!"
Even at my birth center birth, once I hit transition I was telling my husband, "I want to transfer to a hospital and get an epidural RIGHT NOW PLEEEEEASE!" I was begging him to take me to a hospital for an epidural at one point. Up to that moment I hadn't mentioned an epidural nor did I want one. And after transition passed and I gave birth to my beautiful baby I could not have dreamed of having her in any other place or any other way or imagined that just a little while earlier I had been begging for drugs! But in the intensity of that moment and in my own extremely vulnerable state (in laborworld), I was begging for pain meds. Imagine if I had been in the hospital! Would I have had a natural birth? Nope.
I'm always shocked and amazed when I hear of a woman having a natural birth in the hospital so to those of you who have done it, my hat is off to you! You are truly incredible!
So please forgive any doctor/hospital skepticism you might find here and realize that this community is geared towards women who are 100% certain that they ARE most DEFINITELY having 100% natural births. And it's easy to believe a women for whom pain meds won't even be an option (aka homebirth/birth center) and not so easy to believe those who will be surrounded by pain relief options.
This isn't meant to offend anyone! Merely to clear the air and to let you know, yeah- there might be some skepticism, but remember who we are and what this community is about. But we do want the best for each and every one of you and hope that you will definitely have the amazing natural birth of your dreams!
I got a comment on my recent intro post that made my day. It was a first-time mom who said, "Reading about other mommas learning from a bad hospital experience *really* helps to soothe the anxieties of a first-timer like myself. Thank you!"
That says it all to me. If anyone can learn from my experiences, I couldn't be more thrilled! That is what I'm about here.